Browse: Home / childhoodobesity / You can’t order your child to eat better

Menu

Skip to content
  • About
  • Better Body Chemistry School
  • Book a health conversation
  • Speaking query
  • The “Big” Spoons
Header image

BBC

Small things can make a big difference to your health

advertisement

Menu

Skip to content
  • Home
  • Free Resources
    • 31 days to Better Body Chemistry
    • Willpower Report
    • Weight loss e-course
    • The ups and downs of insulin resistance
    • Candy Floss Boards
    • Weight tracker
  • Library
  • Shop
  • Baobab Adventures
  • Lucky dip
  • Buy me a coffee
  • Video gallery
  • Contact

You can’t order your child to eat better

Posted by Dr Sandy on in childhoodobesity | 308 Views | 1 Response

mom watching toddler eatingYou want your child to eat wholesome nutritious food, so that they grow up healthy and in this day and age, “skinny”.

But what you want and what you get, aren’t always in alignment. Exactly what is healthy, is already a contentious issue, but you have “strong marketing forces” campaigning for the hearts and minds of your little one. Hell, these forces and others, routinely campaign for your heart and mind too, when it comes to food choices. When last did you see an advert encouraging you to pig out on broccoli ? 

So getting your kid to eat healthy is a challenge. What approach are you using ?

“Do as I say” or “Do as I do”

Parenting styles influenced weight

The team from Michigan State University peeked into the homes of 330 pre-school children who were participating in a government programme, designed to help kids from low income families get off to a good start. The team was interested in how these kids mom’s managed dinner time and whether this mattered, when it came to the types of foods eaten and the weight status of the child.

Each mom’s parenting style was evaluated. Mothers were classified as either

  • directive – which meant their parenting style was more in line with “Eat it / don’t eat it – or ELSE !” or
  • non-directive – which meant they did a lot less nagging, adopting a more covert approach at the dinner table, by limiting the availability of unhealthy foods

The kids of bossy moms weren’t eating better

When the team crunched the numbers, they discovered that bossy moms did manage to produce slightly skinnier kids, but this was not being achieved through better food choices.

Non-directive moms were able to “command” food compliance, by keeping fattening foods out of the house. Children growing up in homes where this parenting approach, ended up learning to making better food choices. There food preferences tended toward more nutrient-dense foods, rather than energy-dense foods (aka the really fattening stuff), probably because these behaviours were being modelled in their homes.

“Do as I do” trumps “Do what I say”

You probably don’t need a PhD to work out your kids are more likely to eat right, if you’re eating right.

The research suggests demanding compliance, through nagging and yelling, is largely counterproductive when it comes to keeping your kids on the straight and narrow.

When you’re 3 or 4, if Mom says it is NO forcefully enough, then NO it is, but Mom is not always around. A child who has learned to make better food choices at home, is more likely to carry those skills into the wider world.

It means you have to practice what you preach

Adopting the “do what I do” approach to parenting, will end up rubbing off on your health status too but it might be a little challenging too.

You’ll have to

  • think twice before nibbling on that chocolate chip cookie, no matter how rough the day has been and 
  • tuck into the broccoli and brussel sprouts with relish. HINT : Disguise the broccoli to make it more palatable

because…..

Your little one will be watching !

Feeding behaviors of low-income mothers: directive control relates to a lower BMI in children, and a nondirective control relates to a healthier diet in preschoolers.  American Journal of Clinical Nutrition (2012) 95 (5): 1031 M. Murashima, S. L. Hoerr, S. O. Hughes, S. A. Kaplowitz.
 

Interested in learning more about the chemistry behind those extra fat layers ?

Subcribe to E-spoons, to get e-mail updates once a month to learn how to keep your body chemistry balanced so you can burn off the extra fat.

View previous E-spoons.

Close

NOTE : Privacy & spam policy. Spoonful of Science will not rent, trade or sell the e-mail list to anyone. You can unsubscribe at any time by following the unsubscribe link.

Know someone who will find this post useful ? Share it on facebook, linkedin, twitter

Further reading

little boy cleaning the plate broccoli and breast milk elf caffeine break
The danger of “finish your broccoli or else” How to raise a child that loves vegetables Why elves and other smallish people shouldn’t drink too much coffee

The 7 Big Spoons™…. are master switches that turn health on.

balance eicosanoids rein in insulin dial down stress sleep vitamin D microflora think
Balance Eicosanoids Rein in insulin Dial down stress Sleep ! Increase Vit D Culivate microflora Think champion

Hire Dr Sandy from a Spoonful of Science to be the keynote speaker at your next event.

Did you learn something new or do you have a different perspective ? I’d love to hear from you so post me a comment below

Posted in childhoodobesity | Tagged broccoli, brussel sprouts, children, dinner time, fattening, food, kids, parenting styles, pre-school children, weight

Sugar gremlins are REAL

Watch on YouTube

Instagram

betterbodychemistry
@betterbodychemistry
Follow
LOW cholesterol isn’t automatically safe.

That’s the curveball.

We focus so hard on lowering LDL…
we forget it’s doing a job.

And midlife is when these conversations start showing up —
cholesterol, statins, shifting risk.

If this is on your radar…
there’s a free Navigating the Middle Years bundle open right now.

50+ resources on midlife health, hormones and what’s actually going on.

⏳ Closes tomorrow

Hop inside, you'll find the link in bio.

#midlifehealth #menopausehealth #womenshealthover40
#cholesterol #statins #ldl #hearthealth
#metabolichealth #biologymatters
betterbodychemistry
betterbodychemistry
•
Follow
LOW cholesterol isn’t automatically safe. That’s the curveball. We focus so hard on lowering LDL… we forget it’s doing a job. And midlife is when these conversations start showing up — cholesterol, statins, shifting risk. If this is on your radar… there’s a free Navigating the Middle Years bundle open right now. 50+ resources on midlife health, hormones and what’s actually going on. ⏳ Closes tomorrow Hop inside, you'll find the link in bio. #midlifehealth #menopausehealth #womenshealthover40 #cholesterol #statins #ldl #hearthealth #metabolichealth #biologymatters
4 weeks ago
View on Instagram |
1/9
You know that phase where things just feel a bit… off? 👀 Like what used to work for your body and health just doesn’t anymore, but you’re not totally sure what to do about it? Yeah. That one.

I am so excited to announce that my workshop, Cholesterol Curveball: What Women Need to Know, is officially part of the Navigating The Middle Years Bundle! If you've been feeling confused or overwhelmed by your changing cholesterol numbers during midlife, I created this specifically to give you practical, no-fluff answers.

Even better, I’ve teamed up with a group of amazing creators to include my workshop alongside 50+ other resources designed exactly for this stage of life. The bundle covers: ✨ energy + health (including my cholesterol workshop!) ✨ confidence + boundaries ✨ “what now?” clarity ✨ practical next steps

🎁 It’s completely free (for a limited time).

Head to the link in my bio to grab your free copy before it's gone!

#CholesterolManagement
#WomensHeartHealth
#HighCholesterol
#MenopauseHealth
#PerimenopauseHealth
#MidlifeWomen
#NavigatingMidlife
#WellnessJourney
betterbodychemistry
betterbodychemistry
•
Follow
You know that phase where things just feel a bit… off? 👀 Like what used to work for your body and health just doesn’t anymore, but you’re not totally sure what to do about it? Yeah. That one. I am so excited to announce that my workshop, Cholesterol Curveball: What Women Need to Know, is officially part of the Navigating The Middle Years Bundle! If you've been feeling confused or overwhelmed by your changing cholesterol numbers during midlife, I created this specifically to give you practical, no-fluff answers. Even better, I’ve teamed up with a group of amazing creators to include my workshop alongside 50+ other resources designed exactly for this stage of life. The bundle covers: ✨ energy + health (including my cholesterol workshop!) ✨ confidence + boundaries ✨ “what now?” clarity ✨ practical next steps 🎁 It’s completely free (for a limited time). Head to the link in my bio to grab your free copy before it's gone! #CholesterolManagement #WomensHeartHealth #HighCholesterol #MenopauseHealth #PerimenopauseHealth #MidlifeWomen #NavigatingMidlife #WellnessJourney
1 month ago
View on Instagram |
2/9
There is still time to catch my session and tune into all the other amazing presentations happening inside the Bloom & Be Summit. 

Its a free virtual Self-Care Experience for anyone who wants growth, joy, and intentional living…but doesn’t resonate with hustle culture or rigid routines. 

This experience is about small, meaningful shifts that expand your capacity…not overwhelm it.

NOTE : You don’t have to watch everything. You don’t have to change everything. You’re allowed to move gently.

If you’re ready for self-care that meets you where you are, Bloom + Be might be exactly what you need.

Join us March 24–26 (🔗in-bio)

#BloomAndBeSummit #SweetDreams #NightRoutine #BedtimeRitual #SelfCareSummit #RestfulSleep #GentleLiving #FireflyKisses #WindDown #DeepSleep
betterbodychemistry
betterbodychemistry
•
Follow
There is still time to catch my session and tune into all the other amazing presentations happening inside the Bloom & Be Summit. Its a free virtual Self-Care Experience for anyone who wants growth, joy, and intentional living…but doesn’t resonate with hustle culture or rigid routines. This experience is about small, meaningful shifts that expand your capacity…not overwhelm it. NOTE : You don’t have to watch everything. You don’t have to change everything. You’re allowed to move gently. If you’re ready for self-care that meets you where you are, Bloom + Be might be exactly what you need. Join us March 24–26 (🔗in-bio) #BloomAndBeSummit #SweetDreams #NightRoutine #BedtimeRitual #SelfCareSummit #RestfulSleep #GentleLiving #FireflyKisses #WindDown #DeepSleep
1 month ago
View on Instagram |
3/9
If you’ve been craving self-care that actually supports your real life…this is for you.

Bloom + Be: A Gentle Self-Care Experience is a free, 3-day virtual self-care event happening March 24-26, created for creative, kindhearted women who want more joy, clarity, and momentum…without hustle culture or pressure.

This isn’t about adding more to your to-do list.

It’s about caring for your mind, body, and energy in ways that help you feel lighter and more connected to yourself.

Come exactly as you are. Take what helps. Leave the rest.

Free tickets are available now (🔗in-bio)

#BloomAndBe
#BloomAndBeSummit
#SleepBetter
#FallAsleepFast
#SleepScience
#MindBodySoul
#SlowLiving
#NourishYourself
#HolisticWellness
betterbodychemistry
betterbodychemistry
•
Follow
If you’ve been craving self-care that actually supports your real life…this is for you. Bloom + Be: A Gentle Self-Care Experience is a free, 3-day virtual self-care event happening March 24-26, created for creative, kindhearted women who want more joy, clarity, and momentum…without hustle culture or pressure. This isn’t about adding more to your to-do list. It’s about caring for your mind, body, and energy in ways that help you feel lighter and more connected to yourself. Come exactly as you are. Take what helps. Leave the rest. Free tickets are available now (🔗in-bio) #BloomAndBe #BloomAndBeSummit #SleepBetter #FallAsleepFast #SleepScience #MindBodySoul #SlowLiving #NourishYourself #HolisticWellness
1 month ago
View on Instagram |
4/9
Everyone fears sugar spikes… but almost no one realises sugar crashes shake your blood vessels too.
Inside your bloodstream, stability matters more than perfection.

Agent Vaso is the quiet operator keeping your flow steady — until things drop faster than he can respond.

If you want more molecule-level stories that help you understand what’s actually happening in your body, follow along.

This is the biology no one ever teaches you.

#sugarcrash
#hypoglycemia
#bloodflow
#endothelium
#vascularhealth
#bloodvessels
#healthyflow
#glucoselevels
#glycemicvariability
#betterbodychemistry

#betterbodychemisty
betterbodychemistry
betterbodychemistry
•
Follow
Everyone fears sugar spikes… but almost no one realises sugar crashes shake your blood vessels too. Inside your bloodstream, stability matters more than perfection. Agent Vaso is the quiet operator keeping your flow steady — until things drop faster than he can respond. If you want more molecule-level stories that help you understand what’s actually happening in your body, follow along. This is the biology no one ever teaches you. #sugarcrash #hypoglycemia #bloodflow #endothelium #vascularhealth #bloodvessels #healthyflow #glucoselevels #glycemicvariability #betterbodychemistry #betterbodychemisty
2 months ago
View on Instagram |
5/9
If you enjoy understanding your chemistry instead of guessing, come hang out in my world.

👉 Follow @betterbodychemistry
👉 Join my weekly email list - you will find the link in my bio

#nocturia #nighttimepee #sleephealth #hearthealth #fluidretention #metabolichealth #insulinresistance #betterbodychemistry #scienceexplained #healthscience #overactivebladder #sleepbetter #agingwell
betterbodychemistry
betterbodychemistry
•
Follow
If you enjoy understanding your chemistry instead of guessing, come hang out in my world. 👉 Follow @betterbodychemistry 👉 Join my weekly email list - you will find the link in my bio #nocturia #nighttimepee #sleephealth #hearthealth #fluidretention #metabolichealth #insulinresistance #betterbodychemistry #scienceexplained #healthscience #overactivebladder #sleepbetter #agingwell
3 months ago
View on Instagram |
6/9
I’ve spent a long time trying to figure out how to explain what I actually do in a way that feels honest — not salesy, not dramatic, and not simplified to the point of being wrong.

What I finally landed on is something I call Unlocking Better Body Chemistry.

It’s not a program or a protocol.
It’s a way of looking at health problems — especially metabolic ones — that focuses on why things aren’t responding, instead of just chasing symptoms.

Most people I talk to are already doing a lot of “right” things.
They’re just doing them without a clear understanding of how their own body is functioning.

This framework is how I make sense of bloodwork, symptoms, and context together — and how I help people stop guessing about what actually matters.

I’ve put it all into a page so it’s clear, grounded, and easy to read.

If you’re curious, you can read it here. (link in first comment)

#signatureframework #metabolichealth #healthframework #healthwithoutthehype
betterbodychemistry
betterbodychemistry
•
Follow
I’ve spent a long time trying to figure out how to explain what I actually do in a way that feels honest — not salesy, not dramatic, and not simplified to the point of being wrong. What I finally landed on is something I call Unlocking Better Body Chemistry. It’s not a program or a protocol. It’s a way of looking at health problems — especially metabolic ones — that focuses on why things aren’t responding, instead of just chasing symptoms. Most people I talk to are already doing a lot of “right” things. They’re just doing them without a clear understanding of how their own body is functioning. This framework is how I make sense of bloodwork, symptoms, and context together — and how I help people stop guessing about what actually matters. I’ve put it all into a page so it’s clear, grounded, and easy to read. If you’re curious, you can read it here. (link in first comment) #signatureframework #metabolichealth #healthframework #healthwithoutthehype
3 months ago
View on Instagram |
7/9
If your liver folded watching this — you’re exactly who I talk to every week.

Not your standard eat less and move more advice.
Not wellness fluff.
Biochemistry.

Join the Better Body Chemistry list.
📩 Link in bio.

#fattyliver
#insulinresistance
#metabolichealth
#alcoholandhealth
#metabolicstress
#insulinresistant
#metabolichealthtips
#NAFLD
#betterbodychemistry
betterbodychemistry
betterbodychemistry
•
Follow
If your liver folded watching this — you’re exactly who I talk to every week. Not your standard eat less and move more advice. Not wellness fluff. Biochemistry. Join the Better Body Chemistry list. 📩 Link in bio. #fattyliver #insulinresistance #metabolichealth #alcoholandhealth #metabolicstress #insulinresistant #metabolichealthtips #NAFLD #betterbodychemistry
3 months ago
View on Instagram |
8/9
Your body isn’t misbehaving.
Its clocks are out of sync.

Every cell runs a molecular timekeeper — CLOCK, BMAL, PER and CRY — driving your energy, appetite, sleep pressure and mood.

When those clocks drift, everything feels “off,” and people blame willpower instead of timing.
If you want science that explains your biology (not wellness slogans), link in bio to join my email list

#circadianrhythm #molecularclock #CLOCK #BMAL #PER #CRY #circadianbiology #bodyclock #metabolism #timing #BetterBodyChemistry
betterbodychemistry
betterbodychemistry
•
Follow
Your body isn’t misbehaving. Its clocks are out of sync. Every cell runs a molecular timekeeper — CLOCK, BMAL, PER and CRY — driving your energy, appetite, sleep pressure and mood. When those clocks drift, everything feels “off,” and people blame willpower instead of timing. If you want science that explains your biology (not wellness slogans), link in bio to join my email list #circadianrhythm #molecularclock #CLOCK #BMAL #PER #CRY #circadianbiology #bodyclock #metabolism #timing #BetterBodyChemistry
3 months ago
View on Instagram |
9/9
View on Instagram
  • Popular
  • Featured
  • Recent
  • asprosin the sugar plum fairy

    Why sugar levels are high despite NOT eating

    23073 views / Posted
  • oatmeal breakfast being beaten by egg

    Which is a better breakfast, egg or oatmeal ?

    22820 views / Posted
  • poop getting stuck

    The fix for constipation is to go on a low fibre diet

    22510 views / Posted
  • chewing gum relieving postoperative ileus

    A stick of chewing gum gets the gut going after surgery

    17006 views / Posted
  • carbonated water bubbles fill you up

    Fizzing up the water flattens your appetite

    15880 views / Posted
  • sun extracting cholesterol

    Make sure you have your “annual” check-up in the summer time

    / Dr Sandy
  • sending your kid to bootcamp won't stop childhood obesity

    Moving more won’t stop your kid from getting fat

    / Dr Sandy
  • cholesterol at the scene of the accident

    Bone cells are stiffening up your arteries not cholesterol

    / Dr Sandy
  • brain size the problem in ADHD

    Are kids with ADHD just acting according to their brain age

    / Dr Sandy
  • plastering the blood vessel with calcium

    Calcium supplements are building bones and breaking hearts

    / Dr Sandy
  • Plant baring hamburgers

    Does Soy Build Muscle? Exploring the Science Behind Protein Choices

    / Dr Sandy
  • img-42

    The Dark Side of Weight Loss Drugs

    / Dr Sandy
  • Mother Nature stealing from peter to pay paul

    Are You Losing Muscle Without Realizing It? Here’s How to Protect It

    / Dr Sandy
  • img-44

    Your Resting Heart Rate could be a Red Flag for Metabolic Trouble

    / Dr Sandy
  • baby muscle mesmerized by the TV

    Tots watching too much TV end up being muscle flops

    / Dr Sandy

RSS Recent posts

 
 
 

Categories

Featured posts

  • asprosin the sugar plum fairy

    Why sugar levels are high despite NOT eating

    23073 views / Posted
  • oatmeal breakfast being beaten by egg

    Which is a better breakfast, egg or oatmeal ?

    22820 views / Posted
  • poop getting stuck

    The fix for constipation is to go on a low fibre diet

    22510 views / Posted
 

©2011-2025 Spoonful of Science

Menu

  • Meet Dr Sandy
  • Disclosure/disclaimer
  • Privacy policy
  • Comment policy
  • Contact