You love your spouse, BUT, there are times when they infuriate you. Everything about them just annoys you. Those feelings of aggression due to biochemistry.

You love your spouse, BUT, there are times when they infuriate you.  Everything about them just annoys you.

These occasions MUST be their fault.

THEY….

• SAID the wrong thing,
• DID the wrong thing,
• didn’t do the RIGHT thing
• did the right thing, the WRONG way,
• whatever……

A team from Ohio State University have discovered what is  behind the “WHATEVER”.

The bad news,  your partner is NOT THE PROBLEM, you are.  Sort of.  The team believe, the cause  of “domestic violence”, in the happily married begins with a chemical imbalance.

The chemistry of “bickering”

Perfect harmony is something that only happens in the movies.  Real couples, disagree…..

Some squabble publicly, others just seethe inside.

A researchers, gave 107 “happily married” couples a vehicle, to make their everyday tiffs, visible and quantifiable.   They gave each person a doll, along with a set of 51 pins and an opportunity to vent privately.

Monitoring ANGER

Each evening, for 21 consecutive days, partners were required to touch base, with their feelings towards their partner.   Unseen by the “offending” partner, they could quantify their level of “dissatisfaction”, by sticking pins into their “voodoo” doll.

Happily ever after days, meant few pins penetrated the doll,  bad days, could see the hapless doll subjected to all 51 pins.  OUCH !

The pinning time was also pricking time. Using a  standard home testing blood glucose monitor, the blood glucose level was also recorded each evening.

Sugar lows bring blows

When the team analysed the results, an interesting trend emerged…..

On low sugar level days, the dolls came to blows, receiving significantly more pins.

Since these guys were “happily” married, the exaggerated animosity, was attributed to the lower sugar levels.  Low sugar levels are usually caused by an overzealous sugar gremlin.

So how do you manage a sugar gremlin on the prowl ?

The only way to placate the monster behind the  “PINNING”, is to feed it….

something SWEET or starchy,

this instantly bumps up those dipping sugar levels, resolving the aggression.

Happy Marriages depend on…

Hopefully someone told you this BEFORE you got married, if not, marriage counselling 101……….. feed your spouse, before you embark on a DIFFICULT discussion

• Guys give your lady, chocolates, not flowers
• Ladies, serve him dinner, make sure it’s is meat AND POTATOES

Alternatively, take matters into your own hands,  institute a chocolate eating ritual before any serious family business.  If you’re weight watching – try gargling with sugar, it is a little messy, but just as effective.

Because a happy marriage depends on self-control….

Becoming a sweetie pie

And exercising self-control is hard work, it takes energy to BE NICE.

That bite of “sugar”, is able to quickly raise your sugar levels, satisfying your hungry brain, so that it has enough  energy to  help you BE NICE.

Unfortunately, routinely using this strategy to turn yourself, or your spouse into a sweetie pie, can back fire, thanks to the phenomenon of insulin resistance.  So if you’re frequently in A BAD MOOD, you might want to tackle the REAL PROBLEM in your marriage…..

 YOUR SUGAR GREMLIN.

Meet your sugar gremlin video

You cannot eliminate him, but you can tame him. Click here to learn more….

Happily ever after….

Depends on BETTER BODY CHEMISTRY.  Remember, small things can make a big difference.

Further reading

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